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Welcome
Life can present difficult challenges and everyone has moments when they feel like they are struggling. It is when we feel like our old solutions to problems aren’t working anymore that therapy can be most helpful.
Discovering new ways of living your life is a courageous and worthwhile endeavor. Anxiety, depression, marital problems, unhealthy habits and low self-esteem are the concerns I have been helping my clients change for over twenty years.
Blending both traditional and contemporary approaches, I will be collaborative in developing a strategy for change that will be most helpful for you. I work with adults individually, as a couple or in group. My focus with each client is to help them build on their strengths and to overcome the limiting beliefs and habits which interfere with experiencing greater satisfaction in life. To find out more about whether I might be a good match for you, contact me for a free telephone consultation.
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Reflections
DECEMBER 28, 2009
Recovering From An Affair
One of the most devastating experiences in a relationship is an affair. Many couples decide that they cannot face the emotional minefield that is left in the wake of betrayal. Others feel like they owe it to themselves, or their children, to try and work through this crisis. Recovering from an affair is possible, and the relationship can be stronger for it, but it requires:
resolve: try to stay anchored to your intention to heal rather than be swept away by your emotions.
humility: the unfaithful partner must own up to the deep hurt they have inflicted on their partner. However, infidelity often occurs because both partners have struggled in their efforts to nurture a strong connection. Each partner must take responsibility for their part in creating the emotional distance which is the breeding ground for an affair.
time: rebuilding trust occurs slowly, and needs time and patience.
courage: it takes a strong will to face the intense feelings of shame, guilt, grief, fear and anger that an affair stirs up.
Everyone has to decide for themselves whether they have it in them to tackle the task of healing from an affair. If you do take it on, then it is probably best to get some professional guidance to help guide you through the minefield.
Good resources:
After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D.
Not “Just Friends” by Shirley Glass, Ph.D.
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